Drunkenly said something offensive to a coworker
So. Christmas dinner office party. Drank way too much too fast. Told a coworker he reminded me of a cow, but I didn't mean anything bad by it. He has this sort of "cow looking at the cars from behind the barb wire" energy that I think it's pretty cool. A very relaxed/relaxing demeanor. It obviously didn't come out that way (not even sure there's a good way to communicate that tbh). The rest of my coworkers laughed it off but now, sober, I'm mortified thinking about it.
I (thankfully) don't spend that many hours at work with this person, two hours a day at most (he works mornings, I work afternoons). Should I apologize? Try to explain what I meant? Or just pretend it didn't happen at all?
EDIT: edited out the mildly in the title since yeah, it was straight offensive. I did try to explain myself at the moment but I don't remember it going great.
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So. Christmas dinner office party. Drank way too much too fast. Told a coworker he reminded me of a cow, but I didn't mean anything bad by it. He has this sort of "cow looking at the cars from behind the barb wire" energy that I think it's pretty cool. A very relaxed/relaxing demeanor. It obviously didn't come out that way (not even sure there's a good way to communicate that tbh). The rest of my coworkers laughed it off but now, sober, I'm mortified thinking about it.
I (thankfully) don't spend that many hours at work with this person, two hours a day at most (he works mornings, I work afternoons). Should I apologize? Try to explain what I meant? Or just pretend it didn't happen at all?
EDIT: edited out the mildly in the title since yeah, it was straight offensive. I did try to explain myself at the moment but I don't remember it going great.
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So. Christmas dinner office party. Drank way too much too fast. Told a coworker he reminded me of a cow, but I didn't mean anything bad by it. He has this sort of "cow looking at the cars from behind the barb wire" energy that I think it's pretty cool. A very relaxed/relaxing demeanor. It obviously didn't come out that way (not even sure there's a good way to communicate that tbh). The rest of my coworkers laughed it off but now, sober, I'm mortified thinking about it.
I (thankfully) don't spend that many hours at work with this person, two hours a day at most (he works mornings, I work afternoons). Should I apologize? Try to explain what I meant? Or just pretend it didn't happen at all?
EDIT: edited out the mildly in the title since yeah, it was straight offensive. I did try to explain myself at the moment but I don't remember it going great.
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So. Christmas dinner office party. Drank way too much too fast. Told a coworker he reminded me of a cow, but I didn't mean anything bad by it. He has this sort of "cow looking at the cars from behind the barb wire" energy that I think it's pretty cool. A very relaxed/relaxing demeanor. It obviously didn't come out that way (not even sure there's a good way to communicate that tbh). The rest of my coworkers laughed it off but now, sober, I'm mortified thinking about it.
I (thankfully) don't spend that many hours at work with this person, two hours a day at most (he works mornings, I work afternoons). Should I apologize? Try to explain what I meant? Or just pretend it didn't happen at all?
EDIT: edited out the mildly in the title since yeah, it was straight offensive. I did try to explain myself at the moment but I don't remember it going great.
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It's not "mildly offensive" if you just compared him to a cow unless you corrected yourself immediately and explained what you meant.
I assume here you didn't. Your remark was simply offensive then.
You should ask him to grab a coffee together or similar and explain what you wrote here.
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It's not "mildly offensive" if you just compared him to a cow unless you corrected yourself immediately and explained what you meant.
I assume here you didn't. Your remark was simply offensive then.
You should ask him to grab a coffee together or similar and explain what you wrote here.
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It's not "mildly offensive" if you just compared him to a cow unless you corrected yourself immediately and explained what you meant.
I assume here you didn't. Your remark was simply offensive then.
You should ask him to grab a coffee together or similar and explain what you wrote here.
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It's not "mildly offensive" if you just compared him to a cow unless you corrected yourself immediately and explained what you meant.
I assume here you didn't. Your remark was simply offensive then.
You should ask him to grab a coffee together or similar and explain what you wrote here.
answered 12 mins ago
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It's not "mildly offensive" if you just compared him to a cow unless you corrected yourself immediately and explained what you meant.
I assume here you didn't. Your remark was simply offensive then.
You should ask him to grab a coffee together or similar and explain what you wrote here.
answered 12 mins ago
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