Joe doesn't have a driving license nor a car. He had said that he had
no utility for a car nor time to learn

He does have utility now. He found a job that is more than 20Km from his house. He found somebody to drive him that charges far less than the cost of public transportation.

The idea of car pooling is to share the costs of commuting. In many cases people take turns driving, so that the gas usage is similar as is the impact of wear and tear on their cars. In cases where shared duties isn't possible the non-driver should be expected to pay more than a token amount.

You mentioned that you drive him 4 times a day, then you mention in a comment about getting something to eat. If you are driving for food because of your coworker, that is the easiest one to stop. If you don't need to go out, you aren't obligated to drive them.

As to the morning and evening commute, don't mention his salary. It shouldn't make a difference. Tell them that as a permanent employee now is the time to adjust the arrangement if the driving is to be a long term activity. Then discuss how a fair price should be determined: actual costs, saved money, compensation for schedule adjustments.

How to tell a colleague that I want to stop sharing the ride?

Provide notice

Allow for a transition period, ending your sharing Friday, two weeks from now.

Simple state your goal

"I want to stop the ride sharing soon,"

Avoid negotiation

Given your situation, there is little for you to gain.

Avoid salary discussions

It is not part of how to end the car sharing. It may be part of your "why", but now part of how to end things.

Do not change any existing sharing costs

Just say its time to stop and provide a grace period for your rider some time to adjust.

Remember this is also a business relationship. Someday, you may find professional value with this temp's contacts. No need to burn a bridge, just stop paying the toll.

Just tell him you do not want to share a ride anymore. Do not mention the salary gap. If he asks for a reason, say that you do not feel like it. If he is rude and pushes the subject, say that you want the freedom and to be alone in your car.

You are certainly free to do this whenever you want. You can, but do not have to, offer to continue the arrangement until the end of the week so your coworker have time to research other ways to get to work.

As for your daily fee, I think it sounds fair (maybe a bit low). Joe should at a minimum pay half of the real costs associated with the drive, including fuel, insurance and depreciation.

If it's your car you can just tell him he'll need to organise his own transport. No explanation is needed.

Don't go any extra mile for him, but let him ride

If I get your question correctly, the problem is that you feel like a personal driver.
In a comment you say that the way is 90% shared.

I suggest you stop picking up your colleague at his place and instead pick him up at a bus stop that is on your way to work anyway.
Do not adjust your schedule for him. You drive when you need to wake up/ leave the company, not when he has to.

Obviously, you should make these changes with reasonably warning period that he can adjust to them (See the other answers).

This way you probably will no longer feel like his driver but like an equal colleague who does a friend a favour.

Consider this from his perspective.

• He's temporary.


• He has no driver's license, so this means that he is a first time
  driver. As a first time driver, his insurance rates will be higher
  and he would require more coverage unless he has the income to
  purchase a car outright, depending on where you both live.
  Presumably, it also means that he has less credit unless he's built
  his credit up via other means.


• Regardless of his salary, he presumably would feel that he only owes the minimum to cover the cost of gasoline and wear and tear. If he was the CEO of your company, I would still say that covering the minimum is fair enough.

It makes no sense, financially, for a temporary worker to get a car simply for the purpose of temporary work. Suddenly he's going to add a heavy burden to his monthly expenses for temporary work where after that work is done, he'll still have to bear those costs and he'll be less mobile in his decision making processes. It may be that he was aggressive for his salary because his work is temporary, and he's making sure his financial status isn't compromised.

Perhaps you can consider this before you stop sharing your ride.

That being said, since you mentioned getting food, I would suggest stopping that. It's nice enough to bring him to work. You're not obligated to take people out for lunch every day. Of course, you're also not obligated to take someone to work, either.

To answer your original question, you can arrange someone else to carpool with him, or you can continue to ride with him and give him some time to adjust. Depending on the duration of the drive, perhaps Uber or public transportation would be okay, and your employer could also possibly give him a voucher for those, which is a separate conversation.

Firstly, it is your car and your time. If you don't want the other person to ride with you, you can do what @Kilisi suggests.

Secondly, consider being a little just and honorable and rise above this petty thinking. Instead of denying the ride to another person because he now earns more, you should try to learn good negotiation from him.

I must emphasize, I'm not telling you to become his driver. Only telling you to not act small.

The problem is not what he is/was earning. The problem is in your way of thinking.

It seems like you have a lot of answers and although they have merit they seem like they could make things unfriendly at work or even possibly hurt your career.

• You were helping a new coworker out.


• You don't want to do this anymore.


• You don't want to make coworker mad as he seems to have decent clout at company


• You don't want to piss off other coworkers who might think of you as vindictive for stopping the help because he got a promotion.

So how do you get out of being his chaufeur (it's not carpooling if you are doing everything) and keep your standing with this coworker and others at your work. I am assuming if you act like an ass to the coworker he will gossip - this seems like a logical way a person would act when they are too lazy to even attempt at making their own transportation.

So my advice... lie... fib.

You need an excuse to get out of this. No way you should mention salary increase or promotion - don't even kind of hint at it.

You need to be somewhere in the morning or right after work, at least two days a week and rather soon - maybe in 2-3 weeks. I will give you an example but you can tailor this more to meet your personality and lifestyle and bonus if your friend does not like the things you choose.

"Hey Joe, I am starting a new gym in two weeks and will be going there in the mornings at least twice a week. Unfortunately it is not near where you live and I feel bad but you will need to get a ride these days."

Now Joe can go all different ways with this. He could just buck up and understand you are not his ride anymore because you want to work out and you are 100% good with Joe and coworkers.

Joe could do something leachy like say "I don't mind hanging out at the gym." You have to be all in on this. So tell him that you are going at some ungodly time in the morning. Hell you might have to go once or twice then. I mean it could literally be anything so do something you enjoy. Make Joe's feel like he is having to live your life - which he should if he is bumming a ride this long (paying you gas money is no excuse). If Joe wants to keep this scenario up... well going to the gym in the morning makes you hungry... need to stop at a supermarket on the way home... shoot forgot to mail that letter, post office too.

The fact is you don't have a choice here because you don't have a good excuse other than you think that Joe is leaching and you are getting jealous of Joe. If you tell Joe this in the nicest humanly way possible you can still greatly offend Joe which may cause problems at your workplace.

You need a "reason" and that can be whatever you want, that you are unable to keep giving Joe a ride. And you can act as thoughtless as you want. It is far better that Joe whines to people about you being thoughtless and not thinking of him when you joined the gym (will probably make Joe out as the whiner and you the prince) than Joe making fun of you for being his jealous cheufeur. Just make sure you not giving him a ride is about you and not about Joe. Be selfish or thoughtless but don't diss Joe personally.

Just offer him to pay for gas. I think it will be more than he's paying now.

If he agrees, I think it's good deal.